Wishes to You from Dudu Msomi

CEO of Busara Leadership Partners

What I know for sure. Our deepest yearning as human beings is Love! Love that chooses us above All.

Whether we are Children. Spouses. Siblings. We want to know and experience our parents. Both of our parents make decisions that show that they choose Us above their own needs and wants. And it changes who we are for Life when our parents fall short of that expectation whether unconsciously or consciously. When our parents do not model a Loving Union or divorce primarily because they have followed their own wants rather than prioritised us. We are scarred for life. No matter how much you tell us you Love us, your actions and behaviour have proved different. So from a Child that is in Me, to the Parent that is You, don’t make decisions even in the heat of the moment that will damage your child for life. It is these actions and decisions that create adults who hurt others. That don’t know how to love. Just don’t do it.

I remember the last conversation with my Dad before he went into hospital from where he never came out. I asked him how he is feeling and how he will communicate with me if He does crossover even though it was a minor operation. I am a Strategist in my Soul so I always think and prepare for the upside and downside so that I don’t have regrets. Daddy said: “I am not ready to go yet. I want to still walk you down the aisle when you get married.” He said that constantly even though I was and am still not in a relationship. And my Daddy kept his Word. When he got infected after the operation and struggled to recover. He held on. He lost his speech.  He held on. Eventually I released him and gave him permission to break his promise. “Daddy I know you are holding on for me. I love you so much. You can let go. I know you don’t want to leave me. I will be okay. Thank you for holding on for me. You can let go Nomndayi!” I knew from the Soul bond that I shared with my Daddy, I had given my father leave to Die. His actions even in his Deathbed chose me. The Greatest Love of my Life evident in how you choose and make decisions that keep the Ones you Love Whole. Undamaged. Even with your last Breath.

My wish for you whether as a Child, Sibling, Wife and Husband is to give that Gift of the most selfless, Soul nourishing Love to those you say you love. Show them. Don’t just say it. It is the best Gift you can give to them and to the world. It makes us all safe and loved with more Whole, Undamaged Human Beings on Earth. May 2017 truly be your Best Year yet!